Ways to Remember a Loved One During the Holidays

Published: December 5, 2022

As the holidays approach, you may be experiencing a myriad of feelings. While grieving for your loved one, some things may comfort you during Christmas. We want to share some ideas with the hope that one or more of these will help you navigate the holiday season in a hopeful, peaceful way.

CCreate a quilt. The quilt could use shirt fabric from your loved one’s wardrobe. If you don’t sew, you could create a digital quilt collage of memories to share on social media or email. Or some might want to make a poster board quilt, giving each family member a block to write memories, draw, and color pictures. Designing something to honor a loved one can bring comfort and healing.

HHelp someone else who is grieving. One of the best things we can do to channel our grief is to help others.

RReminisce: Share stories as you gather around the fireplace. Or, provide several wooden ornaments and markers, allowing each family member to write and draw memories on their ornament.

IInvest in charities or ministries in honor of your loved one. These could be favorites of your loved one or one that reminds you of them.

SSee a gift that your loved one would have enjoyed? Buy it anyway and donate it to someone you know or a charity.

TTravel to a place you and your loved one had dreamed about visiting.

M Menus filled with your loved one’s favorites can be fun and memorable. Or, you could ask every party guest to bring a meal or snack that was a marked favorite of your loved one.

AAllow time to grieve. Busy holiday plans can help, but don’t let them crowd out time to grieve. Burying or ignoring grief can

S – Seasonal playlist: Put together a playlist of your loved one’s favorite Christmas music. You can listen to it in your private moments and play it while the family is opening gifts.

GGive yourself grace. It is okay if you do not feel like sending cards this year! Most people, if not all, will respect your season of grief.

IInvite friends and family to a potluck. Request foods that your loved one enjoyed. Your meal or party could be a combination of appetizers, main course, and dessert.

FFramed photo: Give every family member a framed photo of your missing loved one, and better yet, a photo of them that had been taken with each family member.

TTiny gift: choose a favorite of your loved one – a book, candy bar, chips – buy one for each family member to unwrap and enjoy.

We hope that these ideas have inspired you to remember your loved one in a special way this holiday season. Be sure to surround yourself with loved ones and friends this year. And make sure to communicate your needs and desires to those closest to you. It is our fervent wish that you and yours will have a peaceful and healing holiday season.

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